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ishotmywomandown: Eric Clapton by Gered Mankowitz

Sun, 19 May 2013 14:42:57 -0700

ishotmywomandown:

Eric Clapton by Gered Mankowitz

hellanne: by Florencia Russi

Sun, 19 May 2013 14:41:44 -0700

hellanne:

by Florencia Russi

kinxsonic: ガブ吉 & サトリ

Sun, 19 May 2013 14:41:16 -0700

kinxsonic:

ガブ吉 & サトリ

littleplasticthings: The Face of Another, (1966)

Sun, 19 May 2013 13:09:33 -0700

littleplasticthings:

The Face of Another, (1966)

iheartmyart: Milimbo Libros

Sun, 19 May 2013 13:08:41 -0700

iheartmyart:

Milimbo Libros

lifeandtimesofbanks: Kanye West — New Slaves

Sun, 19 May 2013 13:08:00 -0700

lifeandtimesofbanks:

Kanye West — New Slaves

Robert De Niro on the set of The Godfather Part II by Steve...

Sun, 19 May 2013 13:06:25 -0700

Robert De Niro on the set of The Godfather Part II by Steve Schapiro

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Sun, 19 May 2013 13:04:26 -0700

nevver: Calvin and Hobbes

Sat, 18 May 2013 11:35:30 -0700

nevver:

Calvin and Hobbes

suicideblonde: Emma Watson by Michael Thompson for W, June...

Sat, 18 May 2013 11:34:44 -0700

suicideblonde:

Emma Watson by Michael Thompson for W, June 2013

shear-in-spuh-rey-shuhn: Edgar PayneSurging SeaOil on Canvas20”...

Sat, 18 May 2013 11:33:00 -0700

shear-in-spuh-rey-shuhn:

Edgar Payne
Surging Sea
Oil on Canvas
20” x 24”

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Fri, 17 May 2013 18:11:00 -0700

On Sadism, or "Hurting the Proud Ones"

Fri, 17 May 2013 18:10:59 -0700

the-mouthy-masochist:

I don’t identify as a top, or a dominant, or even a switch. I don’t get off on control or dominance over someone else even if they cede control to me temporarily. I get off on the pain and the emotional connection I have with my masochist. So what do I get out of sadism that I don’t get from masochism?

The facial expressions. Oh god, the facial expressions. They get me every time. Watching someone fight to keep their stiff upper lip, watching someone struggle to keep their face from registering the pain, and then seeing that strength of will just cave right in? Fuck me sideways that’s sexy. A partner once commented, “I’m fun to hurt—I’m too proud” and he was exactly right. Taking someone who’s normally proud and arrogant and cocky, cutting that person down to size, is intensely satisfying.

The flattery aspect. Because let’s face it, I weigh less than a hundred pounds. If there was any struggle I would come out on the bottom. The idea of someone voluntarily ceding control when they could easily overpower me is flattering. The idea that someone trusts me enough to let me cut them and stick them with needles is both humbling and flattering. I’d never beat someone out of rage or anger. If there’s any bad blood in the air then I’m not going to derive much pleasure from that scene.

The reassurance. I like to push someone to the edge, watch panic and doubt appear in their eyes, then shower them with praise. I’m a mean sadist and an affectionate one. I love love love telling my partner how good they are, how happy I am with their pain tolerance. I love giving positive feedback so we can keep on keeping on with our bad selves. I love slapping someone…watching them wince…then kissing their face until it relaxes.

But while I can play as a masochist with just about anyone, it takes a special type to bring out my inner sadist. I’m still trying to articulate what that type is though.